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Mzansi men getting hot for the modern sex doll



Sex dolls have been around for a long time, and with technology improving rapidly, so are the sex toys.

The plastic blow-up, horrific- looking dolls are so yesterday. Thanks to Luvland, the new life-size Sexbot, JY Dolls, are now available locally.

Unfortunately, right now only the female version is available. “The demand on female dolls is very high.

“I will see if female clients come forward then I can consider getting robots,” says Luvland operations manager Patrick Meyer.

The dolls are sold exclusively at his adult outlets.

Meyer says the dolls cost between R16000 and R25000.

He initially brought in only six dolls into the country, but says the demand has since sky- rocketed.

“I’m getting calls about orders left, right, centre. Look, I won’t lie because the dolls are quite expensive but my clients don’t care about the prices, they care more about how they are able to pick.

“They are able to order a body and features of their choice,” says Meyer.

Maureen Kelly dresses a male silicone RealDoll sex doll. / David McNew /Getty Images

Maureen Kelly dresses a male silicone RealDoll sex doll. / David McNew /Getty Images

The demand is so high that Meyer says while waiting for his order of 20 dolls from the United Kingdom, he has received pre-orders, more than what he had budgeted for.

“They are very expensive, so I have ordered cautiously.

“But I was taken aback by the number of calls I received to order.”

Meyer explains that they look like humans, “talk” like women and even “feel” like a real woman.

He says the advantage is that they never age.

“It works almost like the Siri app on iPhone. It can say stuff, but not have a full-on conversation.

“You can adjust the vaginal hole based on the size that you want. Some use strings, others have a button.

“It doesn’t orgasm.

“But as the man is about to orgasm the doll lets out an orgasmic scream.

“You can order it how you like – most come clean shaven. Clients specify the features they desire – from skinny to curvaceous.

“The curvaceous dolls are more pricey,” he says.

Nagging, annoying women be warned!

Nagging wives need to be wary as sex dolls may just replace you.

A Bedfordview businessman, *Pieter Steenkamp, forked out thousands of rands to buy a doll to satisfy himself sexually, peacefully.

Another man, Roothman, from Johannesburg, says the main reason he invested in the sex doll is because it does not annoy, like his wife. He has been married for 16 years and says the doll is there for him to have fun.

“You see in a marriage women are annoying; they whinge a lot.. Sometimes you want to have peaceful sex without thinking about too much things. For me, it is also about the perfection. She (doll) is just like I want her. Having sex with her fulfills my fantasy.”

Steenkamp has given his doll a name. “I call her Madre, she is perfect and I keep her in my office.”

He says she helps him relieve stress. “I grab my whisky and tell Madre about my bad days. She never says anything negative.”

To get him in the mood for hanky panky, he usually watches some hardcore porn videos. “But other times, it just happens.”

Steenkamp has developed a relationship with the doll and says he takes great care of her.

“I respect her. I clean her and make sure she’s happy at all times.” He says he does not see Madre as a doll.

“I have had her for four weeks now. She has been amazing so far. My wife is a nag. I get tired of her nagging. I still have sex with her but not as much because she normally complains about fatigue. Madre doesn’t,” he says.

The 42-year-old says he would rather sleep with Madre than cheat and get attached. “I’m married in community of property, If I cheat and get caught, I have a lot to lose.”

* Not his real name.

What the celebs think

Sunday World polled some of Mzansi’s finest. Will they get some nookie with a sexbot?

Boity Thulo

“Relationships and sex are about a real person, a real conversation. I don’t think they would ever replace the real thing no matter how perfect they (sexbots) are,” says Thulo.

She says for her, human interaction is more important.

“I know they have a siri that can talk back but it is not the same. I’m more into having a real conversation and I know the doll would never be able to hold a real conversation.”

Nolo Seabi

She believes it’s perfect for those going celibate.

“I don’t know if I would, I’m very affectionate. I want someone who touches me, who is going to kiss me. A robot won’t touch me or whisper sweet nothings to me. I believe however, if someone decides to go celibate, they can do it privately but for me, no, I want the real thing,” she says.

Bujy Bikwa

“There is something enticing about them. Troublesome, but the perfection, the ability to give you what you want is enticing. I believe with male dolls, their anatomy is adjustable. You can make it medium, long or thick. However you want it,” says Bikwa.

Bikwa said they are perfect for entertainment but he doesn’t encourage anyone to buy it.

“The dolls are perfect, human beings are not. Especially if you are in a relationship. They can ruin things for you because you would expect your partner to have such perfect features. So for me, I have decided to stay away from them, they are nothing but trouble.”

Dr Eve

Technology taken a step higher

Clinical sexologist Dr Eve says the creation of sexbots is artificial technology taken to a new level that terrifies her.

“Though they were created to enhance fantasy, I’m terrified by the idea. Here you are with someone so perfect, someone you can programme and make them have intimacy with you in the shape that you want, it is terrifying,” she says.

“You have sex with them when you want; they don’t have a say. We are currently facing problems on consent in marriages and relationships and these dolls are also going to programme men and women to think that in real life you can subject someone to such abuse.”

When asked if the dolls may be able to curb cheating, Dr Eve says absolutely not.

“I think finding out that your partner is having sex with a doll more than he or she does with you may even hurt many.

“Remember, this man has total control of a woman – where he can even make her bits tighter. It will also bring a host of insecurities.”

She says on the positive side, the dolls may be a good idea for those people living with disabilities or for shy people.

“I’m not saying that they should not have sexual interaction with human beings, but you have some people who are extremely shy and others whose physical challenges makes it difficult for them to have sexual relationships,” says Dr Eve.

Another clinical sexologist Doctor Elna Rudolph says sex dolls are novelty items. “I guess people had similar concerns when the first vibrators came out,” she says. Initially very few people used it, now it is common practice. Sex dolls are of course not for everybody, but I do think they will become more and more popular.”

She says the dolls and robots would never curb cheating, but they can enhance the sexual experience.

“The more senses a person can incorporate into a sexual act, the more intense the experience. A guy masturbating in the toilet using just his imagination is likely to have a much less intense experience than somebody having sex with a doll with a vagina that feels like a real one, where he can touch her boobs, smell her perfume and where she can even talk back to him.

The Mirror reported that experts are calling for robots to be put in care homes for the elderly to cure loneliness or be used to rehabilitate paedophiles. A doctor, Kate Devlin, suggested they could be used to help people with learning difficulties and teach them about sex as well as provide companionship.

Some experts believe that the robots could be used for therapeutic reasons.

But if they are to be used as therapy for sex offenders, Devlin is unsure whether it would rehabilitate them.

Victor Fungai Muzvidzwa is the founder and senior editor of magazine.

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HANDY GUIDE: Nine hot sex tips for women to drive their men wild in the bedroom



LADIES, listen up! If you want to drive your man wild in the bedroom we’ve got the tips for you.

You’ve heard of little things called erogenous zones before, but do you know where they are on a man’s body?

There are nine erogenous zones you should focus on when having sex with your man

There are nine erogenous zones you should focus on when having sex with your man

There are apparently nine areas that turn a man on in the bedroom.

Some of them are obvious – if you’re not touching those areas you’re definitely doing it wrong – but some of them may surprise you.

Sexperts spoke to Women’s Health about which areas to focus on to really get a man going.

Here are the nine places you should be focusing your attention.

1. Mouth

Kissing can boost levels of reward receptors in the brain

Kissing can boost levels of reward receptors in the brain

The mouth is a very important erogenous zone.

Kissing boosts levels of dopamine in the brain, a neurotransmitter that boosts desire and the reward system in the brain.

Try tracing his lips slowly with your tongue, or softly bite his lower lip, sexologist Carol Queen suggests.

And of course, don’t forget full on making out can be just as fun.

2. Ears

Ears are erogenous zones for men and women

Ears are erogenous zones for men and women

If you’ve ever had someone play with your ears and liked it, then it makes sense your man would like it too.

In fact, in a survey ears came in just behind the scrotum for places that can help men climax.

Try gently nibbling or licking his ear.

Or try whispering something sexy to spice things up.

3. Balls

The scrotum is a sensitive area and can make him feel very good when you touch it

The scrotum is a sensitive area and can make him feel very good when you touch it

The skin of the scrotum is quite sensitive and can really turn a man on when touched.

You should definitely keep the biting and nibbling at bay here though.

Instead try sucking, licking, cupping or gently squeezing them, sex coach Charlie Glickman suggests.

“Start with your hand around both balls, then bring your fingertips together over them – like you’re picking up a napkin off the floor,” another expert said.

4. Neck

Kissing his neck is also a surefire way to get him going

Kissing his neck is also a surefire way to get him going

Who doesn’t like their neck being kissed?

Think about the tingles it sends through your body – it does the same for him.

And the nape of his neck in the best place to focus, according to a study published in the journal Ergonomics.

You should kiss him there with your mouth slightly open while humming.

“The combination of heat and vibrations will help prompt some serious sensations for him,” sex expert Emily Morse explained.

Or try using a vibrator to massage his hairline.

5. Nipples

Many men like their nipples being touched

Many men like their nipples being touched

By now you’ve probably worked out that what works for you can also work for him.

In a recent survey for the journal Cortex, men admitted that nipples were one of their top spots for stimulation.

Carol suggests gently sucking or licking a nipple while touching your man down there for extra pleasure.

6. The shaft

The erectile tissue in the shaft of his penis contains a lot of feel-good nerves

The erectile tissue in the shaft of his penis contains a lot of feel-good nerves

You’re probably already focusing on the penis to get him in the mood.

But how you touch it can make all the difference.

According to a survey published in the BMJ men rate having the top of their shaft touched.

And when it comes to how much pressure to give your grip – sexperts suggest it needs to be fairly firm.

That’s because the erectile tissue sits fairly deep beneath the skin, so a good amount of pressure is needed.

7. The tip

The tip of a man's penis also contains a lot of nerves

The tip of a man’s penis also contains a lot of nerves

The tip of the penis, called the glans, has a lot of nerves – more than the shaft, in fact.

It’s the closest thing to a clitoris a man has.

So whether you are using your hands or engaging in oral sex, be sure to focus some attention here.

8. His bum

Some men like the prostate gland inside their bum touched

Some men like the prostate gland inside their bum touched

Men have a G-spot too – it’s the prostate gland located about a finger’s length inside the bum.

Not every man will want you to stimulate it though, so check with your partner before you stick anything anywhere.

But if they are up for it, it can be quite an experience for them.

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FALLING IN LUST? Couple having sex while skydiving! WATCH VIDEO



A French-Canadian porn star took his career to new heights when he videotaped himself having sex while skydiving with the receptionist of the skydiving company where he moonlighted as a part-time instructor.
Alex Torres aka “Voodoo” has since been fired from Skydive Taft, but no termination decision has been made about his fellow Mile High Club member Hope Howell.

The award-winning pornographic actor (who was born Alexandre Boisvert) was trying to get the attention of Howard Stern.

The video shows them screwing in the plane on the way to the jump-spot, as they jumped out together, and STILL having sex as they soared through midair upon pulling the ripcord and deploying the parachute. Epic!

FAA spokesman Ian Gregor says any activity that could distract the pilot while he’s flying could be a violation of federal regulations. Skydive Taft owner David Chrouch says he fired part-time skydiving instructor and porn star Alex Torres and hasn’t decided whether to fire the company’s receptionist, Hope Howell, who he said was Torres’ partner in the video.

Authorities say Torres had posted the video on his blog but removed it on Monday. Chrouch said he found out about the stunt when a Taft police officer told him that the video was making the rounds at a local school. Taft police Lt. Ed Whiting told KGET-TV that no criminal charges are pending.

At one point in the video the couple is shown seated in a jump seat right next to the pilot. “No I wasn’t concerned,” Chrouch told KGET. “He was in complete control of the plane at all times. I mean he looked back a couple of times. The same thing he does if there are other skydivers in the plane. He is going to look back, he’s going to look around to see what everyone is doing.”


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If your partner does THIS for a living – they’re probably cheating on you



IF YOU have suspicions that your lover is cheating on you, take a look at their job.

No one wants to know that they’re being cheated on, but sadly it happens.

In fact, previous studies have shown that 45% of men and 21% of women will have admitted to cheating on their partners in the past.

So if you’re worried that your other half is sleeping around you might want to have a long, hard look at thier job.

Ashley Madison, the world’s leading married dating website, surveyed over 1,000 of its members to find out which jobs hold the most cheaters.

Results found people in more stressful and dangerous jobs are more likely to stray.

It found that 23% of women who work in the medical profession cheat on their lovers.

And for men, those working in the trades profession (29%) are most likely to engage in an extramarital relationship.

The study also found that 44% of respondents will stay more loyal to their job than thier partner.

Isabella Mise, Director of Communications at Ashley Madison, said: “A combination of long hours of potential stress mixed with a natural reaction to stress just might be the reason these women in the medical profession seek out an affair.

“Jobs in teaching, entrepreneurship and finance also all topped the list for female members.”

“And jobs in trades often mean irregular hours and are often structured in shift work meaning it’s easier for men to fly under the radar when it comes to sneaking around with an affair partner.”

Top careers for female cheaters:

1. Medical – 23%

2. Education – 12%

3. Entrepreneur – 11%

4. Finance – 9%

5. Social Work – 9%

Top careers for male cheaters:

1. Trades – 29%

2. Information Technology – 12%

3. Entrepreneur – 11%

4. Retail/Hospitality – 8%

5. Finance – 8%

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