One of the hardest things to do is acknowledge when he is sending you the “I don’t like you” signals. Here’s how to tell if a guy doesn’t like you.
Guys are mysterious creatures. Just when you think you have them figured out… no, wait, I haven’t ever thought I had them figured out. Although women notoriously get pegged as the mysterious gender, I would argue that guys are way more difficult to comprehend. Women typically just say what is on their mind. The only thing quizzical about us is that men don’t always like what they hear. That is why it is so confusing to know how to tell if a guy doesn’t like you.
A guy is different. Sometimes I believe that he is completely unaware himself and how he feels 90% of the time. Women can be emotional, which is difficult to deal with. But, the lack of emotion that streams from a guy is even more confusing. If you are wondering how to tell if a guy doesn’t like you, it is a question that might be making you crazy.
How to tell if a guy doesn’t like you – The little signs that reveal a lot
Many signs either say “I like you” or “I don’t like you at all.” Although it depends on the guy and the way that he communicates, there are some pretty tell tale signs if he isn’t into you. If you are noticing these things that scream “back off I don’t like you,” don’t ignore them or think you misread them.
#1 He isn’t turned on by you. There aren’t many guys alive who can’t stop himself from showing his attraction when the time is right. Even if you aren’t the girl of his dreams, he can still show signs of arousal.
If, however, he isn’t showing any sign that you are doing anything to make his man parts tingle, then that is all the sign you need to hear “I don’t like you.” A guy can’t help his physiological response to stimuli. So, if it ain’t getting hard, don’t think long or hard about it… he isn’t into you.
#2 He doesn’t answer your text messages. Don’t be fooled by what your best friend Pollyanna told you, if he isn’t answering your text messages, he isn’t playing hard to get. Guys aren’t that big into their phones.
But, if you text him and he likes you, then he might not answer right away giving you time to sit and stew awhile. If, however, he doesn’t answer you at all, that says that he is hoping you will give up and stop texting him altogether. No answer is a clear sign for knowing how to tell if a guy doesn’t like you.
#3 He doesn’t pay for your date. If you are on a first real date and he doesn’t pay the tab when it comes, then there’s a good probability that he doesn’t like you. Even the dirt poor guys want to be the big man by paying the check the first time around.
Guys consider paying for the girl they like a way to show off. If he is asking for “halfsies” half way through the meal, you can safely assume that he isn’t completely into you, or probably likes hanging out with you as a friend.
#4 He doesn’t touch you. If a guy likes you, he will find any opportunity to reach out and touch you. Whether it is putting his arm around you when you are scared or just brushing up against your body, when a guy likes a girl, he can’t wait to make contact.
If he hasn’t made any attempt to put his skin up against yours and has had ample opportunity, then you can safely assume that he probably doesn’t like you in a sexual way.
#5 He doesn’t go the extra mile to meet you. If a guy always wants to meet you somewhere, then he isn’t trying to figure out where you live or find alone time with you. Sure, some guys have the limitation of no wheels. But, if it is a continual thing and he never wants to come by your place or even pick you up, then there is a good probability that he doesn’t really feel romantically for you.
#6 He’s always too busy to hang out. If a guy doesn’t want to hurt your feelings, he is not going to want to see you cry or make you unhappy. So, what he will probably do is put you off so many times, that to him, it is quite obvious that he doesn’t like you.
Not being the kings of communication or confrontation, many guys will simply continue to say “no” to a woman until she literally gives up. If he is always busy, don’t buy into it. He isn’t that busy, he just isn’t interested.
#7 He brings hot guys along. When a guy likes you, the last thing he wants to do is bring out his first string hot friends. Not wanting you to be tempted to switch players, he will bring out the wingmen who aren’t nearly as hot as he is. If he always showing up with the hotter than average guy, that is sending you a signal that he isn’t worried about losing you, or some guy taking the place he doesn’t want besides you.
#8 He avoids introducing you to people in his life. Sure, some guys don’t want to get all committal right up front and will wait a while to introduce the girl in their lives around, especially to mom and dad.
But, if it has been a couple of weeks and he has been running interference so that you don’t meet up with anyone he knows, then there is a good likelihood that he doesn’t want anyone to get to know you. Why? He doesn’t believe that you are going to be a part of his future. I know, ouch! But, it’s true. If he is keeping you his dirty little secret, it is either because he has a girlfriend, or he isn’t into you.
#9 He is continually trying to downplay himself and talk other people up. A guy who likes a girl wants to make themselves the most irresistible and awesome guy in the room. If he isn’t trying to impress you, then he is trying to get rid of you.
Once more, if he is trying to talk one of his friends up to you, then either his friend has a crush on you, or he just is trying to distract you and push you off on someone else. Either way, that is a clear sign for knowing how to tell if a guy doesn’t like you.
#10 He turns you down. If you invite him up to your place, text him for a booty call, or ask him to meet you late at night and you get turned down, this is one of the big red flags when you’re wondering how to tell if a guy doesn’t like you. If a guy likes a girl, he will go to great lengths to meet up once the lights come on to turn them back off and get busy.
If he isn’t answering or is flat out rejecting you by saying things like he has to work early in the morning, he is either with someone else or wishing that he was. What he isn’t wanting is to be with you.
#11 He never bothers looking good for you. Okay, so men may not be that self-monitoring or care all that much about their looks. But, if a guy likes a girl, he typically will put some thought and plan into trying to look good. If he just comes from the gym, he might be trying to show you the rugged side.
But, if he always shows up sloppy and like he couldn’t care less what you think, then he is sending you a sign that he couldn’t care less what you think, because he doesn’t like you and isn’t worried about impressing you to keep you.
#12 He has a wandering eye or doesn’t give you any preferential treatment. Not all guys are good at being able to block out the sight of a beautiful, hot woman. But, if his head turns at every girl walking by with a pulse or without any shame or remorse, then he is sending you a signal that he doesn’t have eyes for you. Don’t think that he simply can’t control it. If you were the one for him, then no one else in the room would exist.
I know that it hurts to admit to yourself that the guy of your dreams isn’t interested in you. If you are continually looking for signs that he likes you, stop looking. If a guy likes you, then the signs are right there in your face. If, on the other hand, he isn’t into you, the signs are all over as well.
You just have to choose to acknowledge them and not brush them off in an attempt to see something that isn’t there or real. In the end, the longer you stick around when he doesn’t like you, the more time you are losing. And the more likelihood you have, that if you play hard to get or disappear, he will figure out that he really liked you all along and didn’t know it.
HANDY GUIDE: Nine hot sex tips for women to drive their men wild in the bedroom
LADIES, listen up! If you want to drive your man wild in the bedroom we’ve got the tips for you.
You’ve heard of little things called erogenous zones before, but do you know where they are on a man’s body?
There are apparently nine areas that turn a man on in the bedroom.
Some of them are obvious – if you’re not touching those areas you’re definitely doing it wrong – but some of them may surprise you.
Sexperts spoke to Women’s Health about which areas to focus on to really get a man going.
Here are the nine places you should be focusing your attention.
The mouth is a very important erogenous zone.
Kissing boosts levels of dopamine in the brain, a neurotransmitter that boosts desire and the reward system in the brain.
Try tracing his lips slowly with your tongue, or softly bite his lower lip, sexologist Carol Queen suggests.
And of course, don’t forget full on making out can be just as fun.
If you’ve ever had someone play with your ears and liked it, then it makes sense your man would like it too.
In fact, in a survey ears came in just behind the scrotum for places that can help men climax.
Try gently nibbling or licking his ear.
Or try whispering something sexy to spice things up.
The skin of the scrotum is quite sensitive and can really turn a man on when touched.
You should definitely keep the biting and nibbling at bay here though.
Instead try sucking, licking, cupping or gently squeezing them, sex coach Charlie Glickman suggests.
“Start with your hand around both balls, then bring your fingertips together over them – like you’re picking up a napkin off the floor,” another expert said.
Who doesn’t like their neck being kissed?
Think about the tingles it sends through your body – it does the same for him.
And the nape of his neck in the best place to focus, according to a study published in the journal Ergonomics.
You should kiss him there with your mouth slightly open while humming.
“The combination of heat and vibrations will help prompt some serious sensations for him,” sex expert Emily Morse explained.
Or try using a vibrator to massage his hairline.
By now you’ve probably worked out that what works for you can also work for him.
In a recent survey for the journal Cortex, men admitted that nipples were one of their top spots for stimulation.
Carol suggests gently sucking or licking a nipple while touching your man down there for extra pleasure.
6. The shaft
You’re probably already focusing on the penis to get him in the mood.
But how you touch it can make all the difference.
According to a survey published in the BMJ men rate having the top of their shaft touched.
And when it comes to how much pressure to give your grip – sexperts suggest it needs to be fairly firm.
That’s because the erectile tissue sits fairly deep beneath the skin, so a good amount of pressure is needed.
7. The tip
The tip of the penis, called the glans, has a lot of nerves – more than the shaft, in fact.
It’s the closest thing to a clitoris a man has.
So whether you are using your hands or engaging in oral sex, be sure to focus some attention here.
8. His bum
Men have a G-spot too – it’s the prostate gland located about a finger’s length inside the bum.
Not every man will want you to stimulate it though, so check with your partner before you stick anything anywhere.
But if they are up for it, it can be quite an experience for them.
FALLING IN LUST? Couple having sex while skydiving! WATCH VIDEO
A French-Canadian porn star took his career to new heights when he videotaped himself having sex while skydiving with the receptionist of the skydiving company where he moonlighted as a part-time instructor.
Alex Torres aka “Voodoo” has since been fired from Skydive Taft, but no termination decision has been made about his fellow Mile High Club member Hope Howell.
The award-winning pornographic actor (who was born Alexandre Boisvert) was trying to get the attention of Howard Stern.
The video shows them screwing in the plane on the way to the jump-spot, as they jumped out together, and STILL having sex as they soared through midair upon pulling the ripcord and deploying the parachute. Epic!
FAA spokesman Ian Gregor says any activity that could distract the pilot while he’s flying could be a violation of federal regulations. Skydive Taft owner David Chrouch says he fired part-time skydiving instructor and porn star Alex Torres and hasn’t decided whether to fire the company’s receptionist, Hope Howell, who he said was Torres’ partner in the video.
Authorities say Torres had posted the video on his blog but removed it on Monday. Chrouch said he found out about the stunt when a Taft police officer told him that the video was making the rounds at a local school. Taft police Lt. Ed Whiting told KGET-TV that no criminal charges are pending.
At one point in the video the couple is shown seated in a jump seat right next to the pilot. “No I wasn’t concerned,” Chrouch told KGET. “He was in complete control of the plane at all times. I mean he looked back a couple of times. The same thing he does if there are other skydivers in the plane. He is going to look back, he’s going to look around to see what everyone is doing.”
If your partner does THIS for a living – they’re probably cheating on you
IF YOU have suspicions that your lover is cheating on you, take a look at their job.
No one wants to know that they’re being cheated on, but sadly it happens.
In fact, previous studies have shown that 45% of men and 21% of women will have admitted to cheating on their partners in the past.
So if you’re worried that your other half is sleeping around you might want to have a long, hard look at thier job.
Ashley Madison, the world’s leading married dating website, surveyed over 1,000 of its members to find out which jobs hold the most cheaters.
Results found people in more stressful and dangerous jobs are more likely to stray.
It found that 23% of women who work in the medical profession cheat on their lovers.
And for men, those working in the trades profession (29%) are most likely to engage in an extramarital relationship.
The study also found that 44% of respondents will stay more loyal to their job than thier partner.
Isabella Mise, Director of Communications at Ashley Madison, said: “A combination of long hours of potential stress mixed with a natural reaction to stress just might be the reason these women in the medical profession seek out an affair.
“Jobs in teaching, entrepreneurship and finance also all topped the list for female members.”
“And jobs in trades often mean irregular hours and are often structured in shift work meaning it’s easier for men to fly under the radar when it comes to sneaking around with an affair partner.”
Top careers for female cheaters:
1. Medical – 23%
2. Education – 12%
3. Entrepreneur – 11%
4. Finance – 9%
5. Social Work – 9%
Top careers for male cheaters:
1. Trades – 29%
2. Information Technology – 12%
3. Entrepreneur – 11%
4. Retail/Hospitality – 8%
5. Finance – 8%