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7 Sex Positions Pretty Much Guaranteed to Help You Orgasm

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Sure, wild, crazy, never-knew-my-body-could-bend-that-way sex might keep your love life exciting, but if your goal is to really learn what works for you, keeping it simple to start is key. “Trying to accomplish complicated acrobatics distracts you from the sex itself, putting your focus on how you can contort yourself, rather than on just experiencing the sensations,” explains sex educator Dorian Solot, co-author of I (Heart) Female Orgasm. “When you want to climax, the simplest positions are often also the best positions, and with a few modifications, you can make them even more orgasm inducing than they already are.” To help you get there, here are seven sex positions aimed at making your orgasm the main event.

1. The Up and Over

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Missionary position will never be the same again. “While on your back, put a pillow under your butt, lift your hips, and bring your legs up and back toward your shoulders, as though you’re folding in half,” says Solot. This move allows your partner better ease of thrusting and deeper penetration — a perk for both of you. But consider this a warm-up — you’re getting yourself primed for a more intense orgasm. Once you feel like you’re getting into a groove, put your legs down and have him get into coital-alignment-technique (CAT) position. “He’s on top, but he lifts his pelvic bone upward, aligning it with your clitoris,” says sex therapist Gloria Brame, PhD. “Then he rocks against the area until you peak. The legs-up position is a slow burn that brings you to the brink and increases sensitivity. Then the addition of clitoral rubbing takes you over the edge in a bigger way than if you had done CAT alone,” adds Brame.

2. The Down but Not Out

You’ve probably tried an all-fours pose before, and while doggy style is inarguably hotter than hot, in order to make it extra orgasmic, you need to modify it a bit. “Lie on your stomach, lifting your butt slightly so he can enter you,” suggests Solot. “Your partner can prop himself up with his hands in a push-up position or lie on top of you.” Not only does this facedown configuration provide increased friction as he moves in and out, but you can gently grind your clitoral area against the bed as well.

3. The Lusty Leg Wrap

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With all the twisting and bending that goes on, sometimes sex can feel more like your cardio day at the gym than something designed to get you off. That’s why it’s important to have at least one relaxed orgasm-inducing position in your repertoire. Such as this: “While you’re on your back, he should lie on his side, turned toward you,” explains Solot. “Swing both legs over his hips and thighs, making a bridge over them.” Then, just let him gently thrust into you. If it takes you a while to climax, this pose is ideal. “It’s not very aerobic, so the sex can go on for a long time without either of you tiring out,” says Laura Berman, PhD, director of the Berman Center and author of The Passion Prescription. “When you want to climax, it’s easy to touch yourself or he can use his top hand to stimulate you.”

4. On Top of the World

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Woman-on-top tends to be a go-to for achieving orgasm, and for good reason. “It allows you to dictate the pace and depth of thrusting, but mainly, you have easy access to your clitoris,” says Berman. “You can touch [it], have him touch it, or rub against his pubic bone to achieve orgasm.” But you can up the ante by literally pulling a 180. Twist around so you’re pointed toward his feet in reverse cowgirl position. “Instead of straddling him, put your legs together, feet flat between his legs,” suggests Brame. The benefits of this are twofold: With your legs together, the fit is even tighter, making the sensations more intense. Plus, there’s increased internal stimulation, which combined with your own clitoral strokes, makes for an explosive orgasm.

5. Table for Two

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In some cases, a simple change of scenery can aid in achieving orgasm. For this move, you’ll need a kitchen table — one that comes to your partner’s waist. “Lie down on the table with your butt near the edge,” suggests Solot. “He enters you while standing between your legs, holding on to your hips for leverage.” You can rest your feet on his shoulders or on the edge of the table. Because he’s standing, his hands are free to stroke your body,” says Brame. “And he’s at a perpendicular angle, rather than right on top of you, making it easier for him to touch your clitoris, unobstructed.” To up your odds of orgasming, clench and lift up your butt, which will increase the pelvic tension and blood flow to the area.

6. The Sit and Straddle

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Have your partner sit, and straddle him so you’re face-to-face. “You have a lot of control over the speed, angle, and motion because you can use your arms and legs to help you maneuver,” says Berman. “Rather than just moving up and down, which can be especially tiring, sway forward and back, rubbing your clitoral area against him.” In addition to the freedom of movement, there are a few other benefits to this move. “If you lean back just a little bit, you’ll get greater internal stimulation and he’ll be able to play with your clitoris,” Brame explains. Plus, your breasts will be perfectly aligned with his mouth, adding a whole other layer to the sexual experience. Seriously, don’t neglect the boobs, people.

7. The Sweet Spoons

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Emotional attachment to your partner can absolutely play a role in orgasm. If that sounds like you, there’s no configuration that’s more snuggly than the spoon. To assume the position, simply lie on your side, your dude scooted up behind you. Rather than move in and out, he should stay inside you, gently thrusting against the front wall of your vagina. “Aside from fulfilling your cuddly needs, it provides consistent stimulation, which is key for achieving orgasm from intercourse,” Berman points out. “Since he may not be able to penetrate you as deeply though, guide his hand around your [clitoris].” And just think: Once you’ve both climaxed, you’ll be in perfect postcoital cuddle position too.

This article was originally published in 2014 and has been updated.

Victor Fungai Muzvidzwa is the founder and senior editor of HypeAvenue.com magazine.

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HANDY GUIDE: Nine hot sex tips for women to drive their men wild in the bedroom

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LADIES, listen up! If you want to drive your man wild in the bedroom we’ve got the tips for you.

You’ve heard of little things called erogenous zones before, but do you know where they are on a man’s body?

There are nine erogenous zones you should focus on when having sex with your man

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There are nine erogenous zones you should focus on when having sex with your man

There are apparently nine areas that turn a man on in the bedroom.

Some of them are obvious – if you’re not touching those areas you’re definitely doing it wrong – but some of them may surprise you.

Sexperts spoke to Women’s Health about which areas to focus on to really get a man going.

Here are the nine places you should be focusing your attention.

1. Mouth

Kissing can boost levels of reward receptors in the brain

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Kissing can boost levels of reward receptors in the brain

The mouth is a very important erogenous zone.

Kissing boosts levels of dopamine in the brain, a neurotransmitter that boosts desire and the reward system in the brain.

Try tracing his lips slowly with your tongue, or softly bite his lower lip, sexologist Carol Queen suggests.

And of course, don’t forget full on making out can be just as fun.

2. Ears

Ears are erogenous zones for men and women

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Ears are erogenous zones for men and women

If you’ve ever had someone play with your ears and liked it, then it makes sense your man would like it too.

In fact, in a survey ears came in just behind the scrotum for places that can help men climax.

Try gently nibbling or licking his ear.

Or try whispering something sexy to spice things up.

3. Balls

The scrotum is a sensitive area and can make him feel very good when you touch it

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The scrotum is a sensitive area and can make him feel very good when you touch it

The skin of the scrotum is quite sensitive and can really turn a man on when touched.

You should definitely keep the biting and nibbling at bay here though.

Instead try sucking, licking, cupping or gently squeezing them, sex coach Charlie Glickman suggests.

“Start with your hand around both balls, then bring your fingertips together over them – like you’re picking up a napkin off the floor,” another expert said.

4. Neck

Kissing his neck is also a surefire way to get him going

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Kissing his neck is also a surefire way to get him going

Who doesn’t like their neck being kissed?

Think about the tingles it sends through your body – it does the same for him.

And the nape of his neck in the best place to focus, according to a study published in the journal Ergonomics.

You should kiss him there with your mouth slightly open while humming.

“The combination of heat and vibrations will help prompt some serious sensations for him,” sex expert Emily Morse explained.

Or try using a vibrator to massage his hairline.

5. Nipples

Many men like their nipples being touched

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Many men like their nipples being touched

By now you’ve probably worked out that what works for you can also work for him.

In a recent survey for the journal Cortex, men admitted that nipples were one of their top spots for stimulation.

Carol suggests gently sucking or licking a nipple while touching your man down there for extra pleasure.

6. The shaft

The erectile tissue in the shaft of his penis contains a lot of feel-good nerves

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The erectile tissue in the shaft of his penis contains a lot of feel-good nerves

You’re probably already focusing on the penis to get him in the mood.

But how you touch it can make all the difference.

According to a survey published in the BMJ men rate having the top of their shaft touched.

And when it comes to how much pressure to give your grip – sexperts suggest it needs to be fairly firm.

That’s because the erectile tissue sits fairly deep beneath the skin, so a good amount of pressure is needed.

7. The tip

The tip of a man's penis also contains a lot of nerves

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The tip of a man’s penis also contains a lot of nerves

The tip of the penis, called the glans, has a lot of nerves – more than the shaft, in fact.

It’s the closest thing to a clitoris a man has.

So whether you are using your hands or engaging in oral sex, be sure to focus some attention here.

8. His bum

Some men like the prostate gland inside their bum touched

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Some men like the prostate gland inside their bum touched

Men have a G-spot too – it’s the prostate gland located about a finger’s length inside the bum.

Not every man will want you to stimulate it though, so check with your partner before you stick anything anywhere.

But if they are up for it, it can be quite an experience for them.

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FALLING IN LUST? Couple having sex while skydiving! WATCH VIDEO

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A French-Canadian porn star took his career to new heights when he videotaped himself having sex while skydiving with the receptionist of the skydiving company where he moonlighted as a part-time instructor.
Alex Torres aka “Voodoo” has since been fired from Skydive Taft, but no termination decision has been made about his fellow Mile High Club member Hope Howell.

The award-winning pornographic actor (who was born Alexandre Boisvert) was trying to get the attention of Howard Stern.

The video shows them screwing in the plane on the way to the jump-spot, as they jumped out together, and STILL having sex as they soared through midair upon pulling the ripcord and deploying the parachute. Epic!

FAA spokesman Ian Gregor says any activity that could distract the pilot while he’s flying could be a violation of federal regulations. Skydive Taft owner David Chrouch says he fired part-time skydiving instructor and porn star Alex Torres and hasn’t decided whether to fire the company’s receptionist, Hope Howell, who he said was Torres’ partner in the video.

Authorities say Torres had posted the video on his blog but removed it on Monday. Chrouch said he found out about the stunt when a Taft police officer told him that the video was making the rounds at a local school. Taft police Lt. Ed Whiting told KGET-TV that no criminal charges are pending.

At one point in the video the couple is shown seated in a jump seat right next to the pilot. “No I wasn’t concerned,” Chrouch told KGET. “He was in complete control of the plane at all times. I mean he looked back a couple of times. The same thing he does if there are other skydivers in the plane. He is going to look back, he’s going to look around to see what everyone is doing.”

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If your partner does THIS for a living – they’re probably cheating on you

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IF YOU have suspicions that your lover is cheating on you, take a look at their job.

No one wants to know that they’re being cheated on, but sadly it happens.

In fact, previous studies have shown that 45% of men and 21% of women will have admitted to cheating on their partners in the past.

So if you’re worried that your other half is sleeping around you might want to have a long, hard look at thier job.

Ashley Madison, the world’s leading married dating website, surveyed over 1,000 of its members to find out which jobs hold the most cheaters.

Results found people in more stressful and dangerous jobs are more likely to stray.

It found that 23% of women who work in the medical profession cheat on their lovers.

And for men, those working in the trades profession (29%) are most likely to engage in an extramarital relationship.

The study also found that 44% of respondents will stay more loyal to their job than thier partner.

Isabella Mise, Director of Communications at Ashley Madison, said: “A combination of long hours of potential stress mixed with a natural reaction to stress just might be the reason these women in the medical profession seek out an affair.

“Jobs in teaching, entrepreneurship and finance also all topped the list for female members.”

“And jobs in trades often mean irregular hours and are often structured in shift work meaning it’s easier for men to fly under the radar when it comes to sneaking around with an affair partner.”

Top careers for female cheaters:

1. Medical – 23%

2. Education – 12%

3. Entrepreneur – 11%

4. Finance – 9%

5. Social Work – 9%

Top careers for male cheaters:

1. Trades – 29%

2. Information Technology – 12%

3. Entrepreneur – 11%

4. Retail/Hospitality – 8%

5. Finance – 8%

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