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Why some South African women go for foreigners: Hear what they say

Why some South African women go for imports – and hear from some who didn’t like the experience

THEY are well-endowed sex gods – smart, loving, generous and exciting – but some people think they are defiant, tactless, infuriating, crafty and crazy.

Foreign men are all different, but some of their characteristics stand out for all to see.

Though most foreign men are branded drug dealers and con artists, some local women are falling over themselves to get at these blokes.

What makes them irresistible?

According to Mpho Ngwekazi, a relationship and marriage counsellor in Johannesburg, most foreign men are brought up to be responsible.

“Most of them grew up under the watchful eye of their fathers, unlike most South African men whose fathers were absent due to migrant work, exile or adultery,” Ngwekazi says.

She says foreign boys are taught to take charge and take risks, get into fights, know their territory and to protect it and everyone in it.

“The average African boy is taught to be responsible, be a leader and be the head of the household. Most South African men struggle to define what a real man is. Often the yardstick is many children, many women, a sports car, the loudest sound system and so on,” she says.

Some local women would not dream of dating a foreigner, but increasingly, and in greater numbers, locals are marrying or dating foreigners.

Contrary to popular belief that they are marrying local women to acquire citizenship, these foreigners are getting married for noble reasons, says Grace Malinga, a church marriage counsellor from Word of Faith, a charismatic church in Roodepoort, Gauteng.

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“More and more local ladies are showing up with their foreign men for pre-marriage counselling. This is a sign of commitment. They are determined to make a success of marriage and are bonded by love, faith and a commitment and want to live in happy matrimony,” Malinga says.

She believes some foreign men have brought stability to local women.

“Some ladies come from broken relationships, some have children whose fathers deserted them, some are divorcées and others have never been in stable relationships.”

She says some local men who are insecure can’t stand foreign men.

“Foreigners have shaken locals out of their comfort zones. They have shown them how to be real men and now local girls have a reference to compare with.”

What do local women say?

Most women Sowetan spoke to say they date foreign men because locals don’t have what they have.

Tabita Mbuyazwe, 28, who has been dating a Nigerian for three years, says her boyfriend has restored her dignity.

“Before I met Chinedu I dated South Africans, but they treated me like trash. I hopped from bed to bed looking for love. They didn’t want to commit and they all had stable relationships.

“Some had children from different mothers. Some local guys have the libido and energy to father an entire village, but they do not know how to raise those children.

“Chinedu did not only bring stability to my life, he brought dignity too.”

She adds that foreign men are happy, hardworking and provide for their women.

Tebogo Malatjie, 34, who is married to a Zambian and has a child from a previous relationship, says her husband treats her better than all the men she had had before.

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“He appreciates my affection and acknowledges my efforts. At the end of the day, that’s all a girl wants. Most of the men I dated before only wanted me for sex and for show. Very few South African men have genuine respect for women.”

She adds that her husband not only takes care of her child, but of her whole family too.

Zintle Zulu, 28, who is married to a Zimbabwean doctor, says dating a foreigner gave her security.

“Foreign men are very aware of a woman’s needs. They are also better lovers. Most locals don’t know how to romance a woman.”

She adds that foreign men are very generous.

“Not all of them have money, but those who do spend it on their women. Locals are self-centred and stingy and rarely spend on their girlfriends.”

 

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