Sex is like ice cream; we all have our favorite flavor. Once we’ve found the one that that satisfies us every time, we stick with it. Hey, why fix anything if it’s not broken? But let’s face it, cookies ‘n’ cream night after night will have even the most dedicated customer craving a new spoonful to savor.
Whether we’re talking about snacks or sex positions, it’s good to try new things. According to a recent sex study, the greatest predictor of long-term sexual satisfaction for couples was a willingness to try something new, and sex positions were at the top of the list.
Yes, while you may have mastered missionary and doggy-style back in your 20s, there’s nothing like the thrill of playing with some new moves together. Trying new, more advanced sex positions will not only help you last longer, but will also extend the journey to climax, making those final moments so much sweeter for you both.
Be careful, though — these positions are not for beginners.
CAT (COITAL ALIGNMENT TECHNIQUE)
For women that have trouble reaching orgasm through intercourse alone, the Coital Alignment Technique (also known as the CAT position) can be The One. And what man doesn’t want to be the one who gets her there?
To nail the CAT position, start off in missionary and, after penetration, slide your pelvis a few inches higher than usual. Keep your body flat against hers and rather than moving in and out, think up and down — the key here is to be pelvis-to-pelvis so the base of your penis can stimulate your partner’s clitoris. She should wrap her legs around you, either keeping her hips still or rotating them for greater friction. If you’re having trouble hitting the spot, try placing a pillow under her butt or making a circular motion with your hips. Grabbing the headboard and combining pulls with hip thrusts helps with your aim and lets you penetrate her deeper. To truly unlock this position’s potential, make sure she maintains contact with your pelvic bone as the steady, rocking motion brings you both to a powerful climax. Go on, rock her world.
THE SITTING V
Although the Sitting V is a pretty straightforward position for men, it does require a certain amount of flexibility from your partner. How much? Let’s put it this way: if she can’t touch her toes in a forward fold, it might not be the right choice. To pull it off, have your girlfriend sit on a high bench or countertop facing you, while you face her with your feet spread apart. Adjust the distance until your pelvis aligns perfectly with hers before having her place her ankles over your shoulders, moving her body into a ‘V’ shape against you. She can then lean back, using the wall or her arms as support, or pull herself closer to you by wrapping her arms around your neck (Although this option increases the stretch on her hamstrings)… If you want to help make the position more comfortable for her, try supporting her torso with your hands around her back.
This position allows you to penetrate your partner deeply and control the tempo and depth of your movements, letting you set the pace to the climax. The ability for powerful thrusting, combined with ease of execution, can make this an intensely stimulating pose.
Not just reserved for girl-on-girl action, scissoring can really hit the spot for hetero couples as well. Start out sitting up on a soft surface with your legs folded in an upside-down “V” while she lays on her side with her legs open and knees slightly bent; your lower halves should meet an an almost-right angle. Place your upper leg over her lower leg and your lower leg beneath hers, then shift close enough to enter her. Though it may be tricky to find the perfect position at first, once you get it, the laid-back yet intense stimulation will keep you and your lover coming back for more.
The Scissors might not allow much range of motion, but don’t be discouraged — there’s plenty of pleasure to be had for all! The positioning of your intertwined legs provides your partner with continuous clitoral stimulation, while the shallow thrusts excite the nerve endings on the head of your penis, allowing for an electrifying build to orgasm.
Not that you need an excuse to go downtown, but face-sitting presents a comfortable, low-impact way to give your lady pure bliss. If you find yourself needing a moment to catch your breath between positions, or are feeling — ahem — over-stimulated, lay back and put the focus on what really matters: her pleasure. Have your partner straddle your head, being sure to leave you a few inches of breathing room, before she settles in and you go to town. Chances are she’ll need something to hold onto, since you’ll be doing such a good job making her writhe with pleasure. A wall or bedpost comes in handy for balance, while tucking her calves under your shoulders adds extra stability.
This pose is good for those still perfecting their tongue technique, as it allows the face-sitter to control the position and intensity more precisely than if she was laying on her back. And as far as your enjoyment is concerned… If the view from this angle wasn’t enough to get you going, her butt and hips are in easy reach for a squeeze of delight.
It’s like I always say, sometimes you’ve gotta give a little to get a little. But there’s absolutely no reason that you can’t give and get at the same, right? That’s why 69 is such a fan-favorite in the bedroom, because it allows us to provide a partner with continuous pleasure without sacrificing a minute of our own. And when you turn 69 on its side, you can give for so long you just might be anointed sainthood.
Start by laying on your side facing your partner, with your head toward her feet and vice-versa. Next, bend your top leg to form a triangle, with your knee pointing at the ceiling, placing the top foot flat on the bed and supporting yourself on your elbow for balance. Depending on your height and size, you may need to adjust the distance from your partner to optimize access to their private parts. Although it’s much less popular than traditional 69, this sideways variation eliminates potential neck-aches and frees up your hands to partake in the pleasuring, plus it’s often more comfortable and less awkward to hold for an extended period of time. Happy 69ing!
If you’re like most couples, there are many nights you probably don’t want to get off the couch — so why not try getting off on the couch? The Waterfall is a variation on the popular Cowgirl position, but packs a super-sized climactic punch. Start by laying on the couch or bed with your head near the edge and your girl on top of you, but instead of riding you from her knees, she’ll need to lean back and shift her weight to her feet. Once she’s got the stance down, inch toward the edge of the bed or couch, letting your head and shoulders slide off onto the ground while your hips remain elevated. If you’re on a couch, drape your legs over the back of the seat or simply let your knees fall open. From here, your partner has complete control over the speed, depth and intensity of her gyrations, not to mention a free hand to use as she wishes — clitoral stimulation, anyone?
There are a couple of ways to execute this pose: You can either use it as a bridge while building to orgasm, or moving into it right before the big finale. Either way, this position will cause the blood to rush to your head (and your other head) for an explosive climax. (Now you’ll understand why it’s called the Waterfall)
For times when you’re feeling lusty but there’s not a soft surface handy, seize the moment by getting down in the Standing Doggy. This one is perfect for the shower, backyard, closet (hey, no one’s judging) or wherever else you end up when you can’t find a place to lay down. While flexibility will keep your woman comfortable, she doesn’t need to be a yoga goddess to successfully pull this one off. She simply bends over, anchoring herself with her hands around her ankles, calves or thighs, depending on what feels best; if she’s super bendy, she can plant her hands on the floor.
Once she’s in a stable position, enter her from behind, grasping her hips to control your thrusts and assist with her balance. You can bend your knees or spread your feet farther apart to adjust your angle of entry, and don’t forget to put that spare hand to use by stimulating her clitoris. This pose feels great and, like any “doggie” variation, lets you go deep, making it a man’s AND woman’s best friend.
THE SIT ‘N’ SPIN
It’s no secret that subtle vibrations can enhance most sexual experiences, but the Sit ‘N’ Spin takes this a step further. It doesn’t require a lot of strength, balance or flexibility. In fact, to pull it off, you just need one thing: a free-standing washing machine or a dryer.
To get started, sit on the side of the laundry machine with your feet hanging over the edge. Next, have your partner straddle you the same way she would in the Cowgirl position, with her knees on either side of your hips. For an even more intimate feel, she can wrap her legs around your waist while you hold her close to your body — whatever you do, just don’t let go. Then it’s time to start the spin cycle!
While the laundry machine certainly won’t provide you with Magic Wand-level vibrations, the deep rumbles and shakes will feel pleasurable against your bare body. Depending on the strength of your spin cycle, those rumbles might even pulsate through you so she can feel the vibrations as well. Either way, you’ll feel the same about laundry again…
The Cradle is a great pose to add to your repertoire because it’s intimate and sensual, but doesn’t require a lot of strength or stamina to execute. Start by sitting down facing your partner; wrap your legs around her body while she wraps her legs around your waist keeping them tucked inside yours. Help her slide her butt forward until you can enter her, then start to move together slowly. You won’t get a lot of thrusting in this position, but the true orgasmic power of The Cradle can be achieved through a slow, rocking build to climax.
The Cradle also involves a lot of close bodily contact, making it the perfect position to switch into when you’re feeling romantic (or could use a break from heavy thrusting). You’ll love it because the slow, sensual movements help you last longer and savor the pleasure. She’ll love the fact that the seated posture puts her at the perfect angle for direct clitoral stimulation, and the fact that you can gaze into each other’s eyes as you climax together.
While this position doesn’t require a cape, if you make it over the finish line, you probably deserve one. To pull off the Superhero, you’re going to need to bend your partner over a desk, bed or countertop — Just make sure it’s a comfortable height for her to lean on and support her weight. Stand behind her, put your hands beneath her hips and lift her until her feet are off the ground; it might help to have her wrap her legs around your waist for balance. The idea is to hold her up while you thrust in and out, keeping her suspended for as long as you both comfortably can. Once you’ve reached your super-limit, make sure to pull out slowly and lower your partner gently to the ground.
The strength required for this move makes it more of a transition pose than the grand finale, but it can provide a huge rush of adrenaline as you approach climax. She’ll love how the pose provides direct G-spot stimulation in a similar way to doggie style, but with the added bonus of feeling just how strong you are. For you, the Superhero lets you be in complete control of the intensity and speed of your thrusting… until your arms give out, that is.