If your sex life has been lacking, then you need some serious help. Here’s how you can change it around and have the best sex ever.
Sex is supposed to be amazing. It’s supposed to feel great and please you in every way. You should roll over feeling satisfied, incredible, and on top of the world. And if you’re not feeling like that, then something is seriously wrong with your sex life.
Everyone deserves that toe-curling, back-arching, moan-inducing sex that leaves their legs wobbly, and a smile on their face for days. Without it, you can get all wound up and wonder what’s missing from your life. If this is you, then let’s see just how we can make sure you have the best sex ever… every time.
What does having bad sex mean?
You may not think much of your sex life if it’s less than fully satisfying, but it can really be a clue that something else is off. If you just can’t seem to get off during sex, here’s what might be really wrong in your sex life.
You may not be fully comfortable with your partner. You also might not be connected to them emotionally as much as you should be. You could also be way too stressed ABOUT getting off, and that can prevent you from having a good time. [Read: Beautiful sex – 17 blissful ways to connect sexually in no time]
How to have the best sex ever
Your best sex is still ahead of you, don’t worry. Sometimes we have to go through the tough times in order to get to the good stuff. It takes time, dedication, and the right tips in order to really have the best sex ever.
Here’s what you need in order to take your sex life up a notch and have that incredible sex I mentioned earlier. It may be a lot simpler than you thought, but it might be a little harder than you think, too. Make sure to try it all!
#1 Relax. This is honestly this biggest problem people have when having sex. If you’re not relaxed and you have too much stress, the sex is going to reflect that. Your body can’t fully be pleasured if you’re tense.
Make sure you’re not too stressed going into the sex, and stop worrying all the time. When you allow yourself to let go and just feel good, it helps SO MUCH in making the sex feel good. Focus on how it feels, and forget about what you’re stressed about. [Read: Mind-blowing sex – 12 easy ways to go from boring to oh-hot-damn!]
#2 Communicate what you like. Communication is really the key to having the best sex ever. Without it, you just don’t know what your partner likes, and your partner doesn’t know what you prefer. So speak up and tell them!
You can even do this in a sexy way. When they do something you really like, just moan that it feels really good. Or whisper in their ear what you want them to do to you. Believe me… they’ll listen. [Read: How to talk dirty to a guy and really turn him on]
#3 Have sex often. You know what they say. Practice makes perfect! That’s also true for sex. The more of it you have, the better it’ll get. You’ll learn just what you need to do to make it feel great, and you’ll both get into a rhythm together.
#4 Be active outside of the bedroom. In this sense, I mean staying physically fit. When you exercise more, it’s actually easier for you to get off in the bedroom. This is mainly because exercising reduces your stress levels, and it also increases your sex drive.
#5 Use toys and props! Don’t be ashamed or embarrassed that you need some toys involved in order to have great sex. They can only add more pleasure! So bring some to the bedroom and learn how to use them in a way that you both enjoy.
And don’t forget about props! You know, handcuffs, blindfolds, and don’t forget the whipped cream! All of these can add extra elements to your sex life, and that excitement makes the sex all the more better. [Read: Sexual bucket list – 17 fun sex ideas you HAVE to try]
#6 Foreplay is ESSENTIAL. Never, ever, EVER, skip foreplay. Unless all you want is to whip out a quickie knowing full well that it won’t completely satisfy you, always do foreplay. It’s essential for making sure both parties are ready to go for the main event.
#7 Take it out of the bedroom. Having sex in the same place every time can make it rather boring. If you’re in need of spicing things up, then take it to the couch, the living room floor, or even the kitchen counter. A change of scenery can change everything. [Read: 20 kinky things to do with your boyfriend beyond the bed]
#8 Try new positions. If you’re not already having incredible sex, obviously the positions you’re doing aren’t hitting the right spots. So change it up! Try positions you’ve never done *or rarely do* and see if they make things a bit better.
#9 Be vocal. Hearing how much someone is being pleased makes things way better. So don’t be quiet unless you have to. Speak up and use some dirty talk. Obviously, only do so if you know how to master it, because otherwise, it can get a little awkward.
#10 Build tension. Tension in sex is your best friend. This can even start very early in the day. Start building anticipation and tension for sex right away in the morning for later that day. [Read: 10 naughty sex games for couples to feel really, really horny]
You can even give your significant other a little preview as to what they’ll get later that day. Having this tension will make it nearly impossible to focus on anything else all day, and you’ll come home to great sex.
#11 Take your time. The key to having the best sex ever is to make it last. Make sure you’re pleasing each other, and slow it down. Allowing each other to really feel the pleasures and take it all in is critical in having the best sex ever.
#12 Set the right mood. You know what I mean. Light some candles, turn the lights down to a flattering level, turn on some of that slow-grinding music. Getting mentally in the mood to have sex is just as important as getting your body ready. So make sure you prepare. [Read: 20 naughty things you can do to get your woman in the mood for sex]
#13 Stop worrying. Worrying about anything will ruin sex for you. Don’t be so concerned about getting off, that your partner is having a good time, or even if you paid your bills on time. Shove all of that out of your mind and clear it of everything but your significant other and how they feel against you.
#14 Repeat the stuff you like the most. If there’s something you KNOW you love and gets you off, then do it often and repeat it all the time. There’s no reason to change something when it’s good. As long as your partner feels the same way, stick with it, even if you’re trying new things when you start. [Read: How to spice up your sex life in 30 super-sexy ways]
#15 Have a good time. Sex shouldn’t always be something you “have” to do. It should be something that you have fun with and that you really want to do. So don’t forget to have some fun with it! If you just let yourself have fun and make enjoying it the main focus, instead of just getting off, you’ll find that finishing is much easier.
Having the best sex ever shouldn’t be complicated. In fact, it should be one of the most natural things you do. So, don’t overthink it and just do it.