I’VE been meeting a man at my church for sex but we can’t go public about our relationship as he is the priest.
I’m 37 and widowed. My husband died 12 years ago in a road accident when he was on his way to work. He was 35. We sadly never had any children.
I’m a Catholic and the church has been of great help to me since he passed away and I get involved with the women’s groups and preparing the church for services. I’ve made lots of friends there.
We had a new priest join us from a different area. He’s 42. Everyone likes him.
He has a way with people and his sermons are always lively and thought-provoking.
He’s the sort of man who can light up a room as he chats to people.
I arranged to put my father in a home as he suffers with dementia and I was very upset about it.
I was having a moment of sadness in the church when the priest came in.
He sat with me and comforted me. He was wonderful.
I called round to his home the following day with a pie I’d made by way of a thank you.
He invited me in for some tea.
Our conversation got very deep — me talking about my husband and he about a girl he’d known in his teens.
He said he missed relationships most of all.
He said I am an attractive woman and I should think about dating again.
I looked into his eyes and I melted.
He leant towards me and we kissed.
I knew it was wrong but he was so lovely.
Things went further and we went up to his bedroom and we had sex.
It was wonderful.
He has been round to my house and we had sex in the crypt one afternoon and in his priest’s room another day.
He says he’ll be thrown out of the church if anyone knows about us but I love him and he says he loves me.
He’s stuck between a rock and a hard place.
He may love you but he doesn’t sound to be making you any promises so his love for the church is probably greater – and he can’t have both, at least not fully.
If he’s not prepared to step down from his position in the church, then sadly, your relationship is going to be an empty and unfulfilling one.
Do the right thing and end this now before you get ostracised or he finds himself in trouble.
You deserve to be in a relationship with somebody who can be open and honest about what you have together.