When I first went to her house I couldn’t believe her mum’s age. She is 44.
My then wife-to-be told me, proudly, that all her boyfriends had fancied her mum. It seemed a strange thing to say.
That’s the odd thing about marrying someone from another culture — there’s so much that’s different and strange that I didn’t know what to believe.
Her mum owns a restaurant.
It’s a small, classy place and my mother-in-law took it on when my wife’s dad passed away.
She’s a very smart woman who knows how to run a good business and still have time off to have fun.
My wife covers for her in the restaurant alternate weekends and that’s when her mother is free to see me.
The first time it happened she came to our house where I was alone with our two-year-old son.
She said she was checking that I was behaving myself while my wife was away.
I poured her a drink and she pulled up her skirt while she sat next to me.
I caught sight of stockings, all lacy and black.
That’s something my wife knows I just can’t resist.
We had a couple more drinks then I couldn’t hold back any more.
We had sex on the sofa while my son slept upstairs.
This is now quite a regular thing.
We’ve progressed from suspenders and stockings to bondage and real kinky stuff like I’ve only ever dreamed of before.
I’ve never had this kind of sex with anyone else and I know I won’t get it again.
The sex is up there in a league of its own but then so is the guilt.
I know this must stop but my willpower is weak.
Are you asking for advice or boasting about what you have been up to?
You know what to do.
You must tell your mother-in-law that it’s all been amazing but you must stop now or your son and your wife, the two people you should love the most, will get desperately hurt.
Take control of your life and please don’t let your lust get the better of you.
Maybe you’re fooling yourself that your wife wouldn’t mind.
I bet that she would.
How is your sex life together?
Show her what you like but also focus on her.
Let go of other distractions and start giving your marriage the attention and love it deserves.
My e-leaflet How To Thrill a Woman in Bed can help.
Above all, think of your son.
Do your utmost to give him the calm loving home he deserves.