DEAR LIRA: I’m cheating on my husband with a colleague – I know it’s wrong but it feels so good

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Dear Lira

I LOVE my husband but had the most amazing sex with a colleague recently.

I know we should just be friends but my feelings for him are growing stronger all the time.

I’m obsessed.

I was a stay-at-home mum until last year when I went back to work part-time for an insurance company.

I am 31, my husband is 46 and we have three beautiful girls.

My husband is a lovely man and a brilliant dad.

I hated work at first but a colleague started chatting to me and before long I began to look forward to us being in the office together.

My husband did comment on all the new clothes I was buying and that I got my hair styled differently.

I just said I had to fit in with all the younger girls at work.

This colleague started flirting with me but when he found out I was married he said: “We have to stay just friends then.”

We backed off for a few weeks but one day he asked me to have a drink with him at lunchtime.

We had a real laugh and chatted so easily I could not remember when I last felt so relaxed.

That night he offered to give me a lift home as he lives in the same town as me.

As he was dropping me off at the end of our road I leaned over and gave him a kiss on the cheek.

It was like a green light and we could not stop kissing.

He said: “Whoops, we’d better do this somewhere safer,” so he drove to a quiet car park.

We carried on and then he asked if I would go back to his place.

There was no way I was going to refuse so I texted my husband that I had to work late.

Once we got to his flat we made love in a beautiful way, then he took me home.

I am completely head-over-heels in love with this man, who is only two years younger than me.

It is wrong, I know, and I should not be having these feelings for another man.

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LIRA SAYS:

In love or lust?

Sex with your colleague lit the touchpaper.

You’re both burning hot now but that doesn’t mean it will last.

A miserable husband, a broken marriage and three unhappy little girls could pour cold water all over your feelings for one another – that’s if your lover even has any thoughts of getting serious.

Men are more likely to enjoy a sexy fling without becoming emotionally involved, while you are falling for him big-time.

Nip this in the bud before too much damage is done.

Put all the energy that is going into this fling into your relationship.

You may be surprised that you can fall in love all over again with your husband too.

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